Can you be friends with your ex?

This guest post is by Mara Enid, who writes about getting your ex back with the law of attraction: After breaking up, many couples make promises to remain friends. The urge to remain friends is pushed by the need to keep sharing the good memories that you both had with each other before breaking up. However, the promise to remain friends even after a relationship ending is one of the many broken promises that couples continue to experience. Although some situations require the need to remain friends such as if you were business partners, remaining frank friends is almost impossible. Should you be friends with your ex or it’s all or nothing? Comfort Zone Although it would make things easier for both parties to have a mutual breakup, there are absolutely no mutual breakups. In most occasions, one person is the heartbreaker while the other mulls over the heartbreak for weeks or even months. It is not easy to end a relationship with someone you have shared good and bad times. The urge to remain friends is mostly proposed by the heartbreaker as a truce so that the dumper would not appear to be bad because they are friends. Having it both The proposal to remain friends also gives the dumper the comfort of knowing their ex would still be in their life and thus, they would not lack anything. This allows the dumper to move on with their life easily while having the pleasure of knowing they can take coffee together with the ex while the dumped is constantly reminded of the person who broke their heart. Keeping secrets No matter how you try to remain friends with your ex, you cannot confide on each other. There is absolutely no way you can tell your ex that you are going out on a hot date or even the person in your life has pleasured like no other has ever done in your life. Remaining friends after a relationship ending will only give you a security blanket of knowing your ex is there and you can call them once in a while but in reality you do not know how they are. One sided bitterness One party will always feel bitterness or resentment toward the other and thus, the friendship cannot work out because one party will not be sincere. Jealousy No matter how friend you are with your ex, there is absolutely no way you will be happy for your ex because they have found someone new in their life. The truth of matter is that you cannot stand the moment of watching your ex cuddle with some else. Passion and lust Even if you relationship is basically problem driven, when everything cools down, the passion and sexual chemistry will come back unless you broke up because there was no passion. The lust and passion might force you into a one more night, which will take you back to the square one of how you felt immediately after breakup.